Hi Reader,
A deeply held belief of mine:
The best leaders are the ones who are willing to do deep self-work.
This wasn’t always my belief. It’s something that’s emerged over the past few years as I’ve worked with hundreds of leaders across industries. Over and over again, I’ve seen how often brilliant, capable people are still driven by old stories: what a former boss expected, what a mentor once modeled, or what they think they should do.
When you don’t know what’s a true yes or no for you, it’s easy to default to people-pleasing, smoothing things over, or avoiding hard conversations altogether.
When new clients come to me, they’re usually navigating some version of this:
– A visionary, but erratic boss whose communication is unclear
– A team stuck in the weeds and unable to deliver at the level that’s needed
– A workplace dynamic that causes ongoing stress or second-guessing
These concerns are real. And there are plenty of strategies to handle critical conversations, performance issues, and stakeholder management. And I have learned:
The most effective leadership tool is not your script. It's your self-regulation.
Because when your nervous system is calm, your clarity goes up. You can access what’s really true for you, not what you’ve been taught to say, not what you think others want to hear, not what keeps the peace at your expense.
If your default in hard moments is to vent to a colleague, smile through the discomfort, or shrink into one-word replies… you are not broken. You are just protecting yourself in the best way you know how. And still, those responses may be costing you your power.
Most people don’t want to hear, “You have to work on yourself first.”
And yet, I’ve seen that until you understand what’s really getting under your skin, it’s hard to advocate for what you need in a way that is honest, clear, and rooted in self-respect.
From that grounded place, you can talk about feedback, boundaries, timelines, expectations, not as a demonstration of position, but as an aligned professional.
So here’s what I’ll leave you with:
What makes you unstoppable is not perfection...it’s discernment.
It’s knowing what’s a true yes or no for you. Knowing when to speak and when to listen. Knowing when to learn ask clarifying questions and when a boundary is being crossed.
This is the quiet, powerful work that builds transformative leadership.
✨ To your boldest, truest dreams,
Megan
If you’re also feeling a little stretched between presence and productivity in this bittersweet end-of-summer season, I’d love for you to join me for my Summer Serenity workshop!
